This would
definitely take you back to your childhood.....
You Know You Grew Up
in India in the 90s When…
1) You know the words to ‘In-pin-safety-pin', ‘akkad-bakkad’ by heart and 'Adko Dadko' as well.
2) Cricket is almost a religion for you, and you idolize at least one of
Rahul Dravid/Sachin Tendulkar/Saurav Ganguly. Few of us might have also idolized “Ajay Jadeja” in young
age.
3) You have read at least some Chacha Chaudhary or Tinkle
comics. Best comic to bhai “Vikram Vetaal”
4) You’ve watched Shaktimaan on TV at least once in your life.
And you can immediately recognize the character when you see him.And also used to imitate the style of Shaktimaan - of going
rounds few with finger raised and then jump from the bed to floor :)
5) You watched corny dubbed versions of Small Wonder, Silver
Spoon, and I Dream of Jeanie; I could also think of dubbed - The Lion King here..
“Hakoona Matata” :)
7) A visit to Pizza Hut used to mean a special treat; Yeah in Gujarat there was only one Pizza hut in 90s, the one which was situated on C.G. Road, Nr. Swastik Cross Roads.
8) You have seen Kuch Kuch Hota Hai and Hum Aapke Hain Kaun at
least 5 times each ;)
9) You still remember the theme song of Hum Paanch. (Hum
Paanch, Pam Pam Pam Paanch!); Aha..!! Meenaxi, Kajalbhai, Radhika, Sweety and Chhoti..!!
+ How can I forget Anand Mathur and Sattarbhai Pinepalwala here.
10) You have played hours upon hour of running and catching, chor-police, lagori, saankli, ‘Doctor, doctor, help us!’, ‘Lock and key’; Few more – Nadi Parvat, Laakdu-Lodhu, King, Chhalak Chhalaanu :)
11) Dog ‘in’ the bone was your favorite co-ed game.; “Indu (Egg in Gujarati)” where in we used to draw
huge squares on soil and then game started to begin.
12) You collected trump cards of wrestlers, cricketers, and airplanes, and did not quite understand why your younger siblings were obsessed with Pokemon and the other Japanese trends that followed. Trump cards as well as cards tearing covers of empty matchboxes (We used to call them “Chhap”).
13) Your summer vacations were often synonymous with visiting
your grandparents or cousins; Ae to Mama nag hare ho bhai!!
14) Bole mere lips, I love uncle Chips! && Ghar jaisi hi namkeen, Samraat Namkeen!!
15) You know the song ‘Made in India’ by Alisha Chinai Aaja Meri gaadi me baith jaa – By Baba Sehgal and Jalsa Kar
Bapu Jalsa Kar – By Dewang Patel.
16) You have seen many many many episodes of ‘Antakshari’ on Zee TV and know the only thing constant in the show is Annu Kapoor.; And many many episodes of Phillips Top 10 – A programe which was telecasted after Antakshari and in that song “Sona Kitna Sona Hai…” remained on top for two months or so…!! I do remember. 17) You were the coolest thing in class if you had a computer in your house while it was still the 90s. True!! As many of us might not have utilized hands on Computer till 10th Std. I am the example. 18) You couldn’t wait to start 4th standard so you could start writing with PENS instead of with pencils! In Gujarat it was till 5th Std up to which Pencils were mandatory to use. 19) You often used terms and phrases like ‘two-say’, ‘same to you, back to you, with no returns’, and ‘shame shame, puppy shame, all the donkeys know your name.’ For us the phrases we used were different and I don’t want to mention them here. Shu kevu bhaiyo?? 20) You most probably saw Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge at the cinema at least once. You also fantasized about singing songs in mustard fields as in the movie. Aah!! Correct… And how can I forget that “Palat… Palat…” scene!!!!!!!!
21) You have said ‘haw’ or ‘yuck’ when you saw people kissing in English
movies. (nowadays kids are used to it!)
22) Titanic && Jurassic Park were your FIRST favorite English movie.
23) You thought seeing English movies and speaking English
made you the coolest thing ever.
24) You remember the Gujarat earthquake very clearly and could possibly tell everyone EXACTLY what you were doing when the earthquake occurred (yes, this happened in 2001, January 26, 2001, to be exact — but this group is about the things that Indian kids that GREW UP in the 90s remember and identify with). 25) Barbies for girls, and GI Joes for boys were the ultimate status symbols. You just wanted more more more and more. And how can I forget Hot Wheels, for both boys and girls? I could think of He-Man as well for boys. 26) You thought ‘imported’ clothes were definitely way better than ‘made in India’ clothes (never mind that a lot of clothes brought from overseas by NRI relatives were actually made in India, before ‘Made in China’ started appearing on EVERY existing thing) 27) "Jungle Jungle Baat Chali Hai Pata Chala Hai! Chaddi Pehen Ke Phool Khila Hai Phool Khila Hai!" You watched "The Jungle Book" every Sunday morning at 9.a.m" and just loved mowgli, bhalu and bagheera. A few years later, you watched Disney Hour, which had cartoons like Aladdin, Gummy Bears, Tail Spin, Uncle Scrooge!; True… And how can I forget that boomerang of Mowgli..!! Aevu laakdu lai ne throw karva na chakkar ma be kaach fodela. 28) At some point or other, cool was your favourite, and therefore, most overused word.
29) You loved licking off the cream from the centre of Bourbon
biscuits. Bourbon to khabar nahi.. Pan hu to pela oval shaped – light
pink cream filled + Jam walaa biscuits ma evu karto hato..!!
30) There were no Nike, Reebok, Adidas, Puma- Bata and Liberty
was the way to go for your sports shoes. And how could one forget the Sachin’s autographed –
Action’s Rockers here… Spring wala boot me lidha hata ho :)
31) You have probably consumed more Frooti in your lifetime than there is oil
in Iraq. Frooti to nahi pan peli plastic ni kothli ma sharbat bhari
ne Ice-chilled thandi kareli Pepsicola pita hata ho bhai…!!
32) You bought packets of potato chips for the specific purpose of collecting Tazos. And you had Tazos depicting everyone from Confucius to Daffy Duck to Daffy Duck dressed as Confucius. 33) For the longest time, the Maruti 800, the Premier Padmini, THE Fiat, and THE Ambassador were the only cars you saw on the road, and the Contessa was cool because it was bigger. 34) You would literally jump up in excitement if you ever chanced upon an imported car (Oh my gosh, is that really a MERCEDES?)! 35) You used to Fuzen gum. You also chewed Big (big) Babool and/or Boom Boom Boomer chewing gum. They were bright pink and disgusting tasting, but you loved them for the temporary tattoos. Besides Big Babool and Boomer… One Big Fun was also there :) Try to recall guys… :) And then Center Fresh came later and still in the market. 36) Talking of temporary tattoos, you sometimes had contests with your classmates about who had more tattoos on their arm, leg, knee, hand, forehead, wherever. 37) You thought Mario and Contra were the coolest things ever invented, especially if you were a boy. I could think of Bomber Man as well here. :) 38) You knew that having the latest Hero or Atlas bicycle would make you the coolest kid on the block. How could you forget Hercules brand MTB cycles here. Peli carrier ni pachhal MTB aevu orange color thi lakhelu aavtu hatu… :)
39) You can imitate Sushmita Sen’s winning gasp to perfection
40) You have, at some point of time, worn GAP clothes (real or fake) like SRK in KKHH. Yess and very correct. I did and it was of Orange color with strings around Neck. :) 46) Seemingly senseless acronyms like SRK, DDLJ, DTPH, KKHH actually make sense to you.. Two more HAHK and HDDCS. 47) You have at some point debated who was more beautiful- Aishwarya or Sushmita. Even long before the comparison was between Madhuri and Meenaxi. J And ame to Snehlata and Roma manek ni comparision pan karta hata…!! :) 48) You would watch WWF keenly every evening/afternoon and loved Bret Hart "Hitman"! really thought Undertaker had seven lives and he made an “actual” appearance in the Akshay Kumar- starrer Khiladiyon ka Khiladi. Mara mummy ne Sapna na vavetar/Ek daal na pankhi jovu hoy ne mare WWF… Roj na jhagda. :) 49) You remember the Nirma girl. I remember the Surendranagar RPP and Vikas girls – This likes are just for Sngr ppl like Deepen and Nishit.. :)
50) You remember the ‘doodh doodh piyo glass full doodh’ ad and also the
‘laal kaala peela, gulabi hara neela classic hai badia bristles wala’ and
'roz khao ande' ads. Ajanta toothbrush pappa ka mummy ka bhaiya ka didi ka…. Aur
Ajanta Mera…!! Kaayam Churna – Bhavnagar waale sheth brothers ka..!! Ha ha
ha..!!
51) You grew up reading, if you read at all, some or all of
Nancy Drews, Enid Blyton books, Hardy Boys, Babysitters Club, Animorphs,
Goosebumps, Sweet Valley series, Judy Blumes, and Tintin, or Archie comics.
Because naturally, reading foreign authors made you much cooler than reading
Tinkle. Ame to Panchtantra vanchta hata ho bhai..!!
52) Towards the late 90s (1998-99) at least some of us started our Harry Potter obsessions! And also there was a craze of Spiderman. 53) You absolutely HAD to go to Essel World if you were with cousins! “Essel World mein rahoonga main, ghar nahin nahin jaaonga main!” Aapdo to bhai Sankuruz Water Park – Mehsana…. Ke jya Sunil Shetty + Sonali nu very famous song – Aankhon me base ho tum tumhe dil me chupa loonga shoot thayu hatu.. J He he he…!! 54) You watched the Bournvita Quiz contest on TV pretty religiously. The smarter ones amongst you actually took part in it and had your entire school and your entire extended families watch you on it! 55) Maggi 2 Minute Noodles = ultimate snack (and tiffin, lunch, dinner)! No Maggie… Sev Mamra please. :) Biju kai hoy ken a hoy… Pan Sev Mamra to ghar ma hoy j. 56) If you grew up in the early 90s, you recall the nation’s obsession with Mahabharata on TV. Ramanand Sagar’s Ramayana and Shri. Krishana…. Plus Sanjay Khan directed Jai Hanumaan were also in the list. 57) In the later 90s, you religiously followed Hip Hip Hooray on Zee. Maybe Just Mohabbat on Sony too 58) You remember parzan dastur sayin "JALEBI!!!!" in the Dhara Ad; Aha, I still used to sing “Dhara Dhara……” lines of advertisement at my home yet. He he he..!! 59) You eagerly awaited Friendship Day, so you could give friendship bands to all your friends, and get bands from them in return. Then, of course, those with the most bands loved to show them off. 60) Backstreet Boys' "Quit Playing Games" was one of the first english songs that you LOVED! If matter was of English songs then BB are quite new… It should have been Thriller of MJ. J What say…
61) Andaz Apna Apna is and most probably will always be your
favourite comedy flick!! "Aila Jhakaas!!!"
Ekdum Sachhu…!! Crime master GOGO… Aankhen nikaal ke gotiya
khelta hai who...!! Ohh GOGO Saheb aapka ghagra…!!! Badhu j yaad chhe.. J J
62) This list made you smile.Now this will made you even more smile.. Like :)
Miss that age, it was sooo awesome! |
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Back to Childhood :) :) :)
"She" in each wife and "He" in each Guy !!
She/he...And a love story
Note : Read till the end; nothing's more worthy than the ending.
Friend: Happy birthday!
She : Haan...thaannnk yoouuuu... was just getting up from the bed.
Friend : Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!
She : Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.
Friend : Who???
She : Come on, who else, Nitin.
Friend : Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?
She : Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.
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Friend : "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"
She : Nitin
Friend : By the way, who referred your CV in Infosys ? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?
She : No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.
Friend : I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.
She : No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.
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Friend : If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?
She : I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit.
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Friend : Hello...what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?
She : Listen, I will call you later.
Friend : You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.
She : Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.
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Friend : Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.
She : Why not? You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.
Friend : You will miss him.
She : Badly. I must thank Rohit, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives . He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding...a true friend.
Friend : He loves you yaar.
She : I know. He has expressed his feelings towards me.
Friend : Hey.When did he do that? You didn't tell me.and what was your reply?
She : Come on yaar.chill. You know my answer what would have been.
Friend : Don't you love him?
She : I don't want to.
Friend : Don't tell me. You also have a soft corner for him, if not love.
She : I don't want to commit.
Friend : What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When Miya-beevi are razi kya karega kazi ?
She : Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that, though he has tried to convince me.
Friend : Are you a fool not to understand his feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.
She : He is nice, but not my kind of guy. He is just a friend, I never had those feelings for him. I have told him everything about me and my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different state. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.
Friend : But you should marry a guy who loves you the most, not the one you like. And it's clearly visible how much you mean to him.
She : Please.I don't want to discuss about him anymore. I will gradually move away from him..I believe my parents will definitely find a good alliance..
Friend : Hmm, I don't understand at all. I am thinking how Nitin will take this. Hope he will move on.
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She : This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.
Friend : Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.
Friend : Any guesses, who is he?
She : Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.
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Friend : What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?
She : Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.
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Friend : Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.
She : Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.
Friend : How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?
She : Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life?
I don't like him "that" much to marry him. I have already told him about this. Anyway my parents will choose the best for me, a really nice, caring guy.
It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.
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Finally " She " got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new " him " regularly through chatting in Google Talk.
Now she ignores Nitin's SMSs and pings, coz she doesn't feel "comfortable" with that, as her alliance is fixed now.
Finally " She " got happily married to " him ", very soon converting Nitin into memories. But deleting the memories was slow and impossible for Nitin.
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Why do girls do like this? What was Nitin's fault? Why is that the girl who meant the world for him, treats him just like any other guy?
She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1st written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road , Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)
The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".
He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
He dreams to be her life-partner.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the " bhatka hua musafir " and she came as his " manzil ".
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to make her happy.
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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life.
Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).
Great! Or shall I say crap!
Or I think no need to be so serious about it.
She gets engaged, life goes on...
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...
A heart which was used to "Good morning", "Good night" and "Happy journey" SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" and SMSs, life goes on...
No more "Unread messages" in the Gmail, life goes on...
No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...
No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...
He stops taking care of his health, life goes on.
He resumes smoking again, life goes on...
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...
He starts drinking, life goes on...
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...
He earns a lot, but lost forever, life goes on.
He still wonders what went wrong, life goes on.
He smiles in the pain recollecting the time spent with her, and she is happy with her family, but life goes on.
Some have made movies, some wrote books - because there is " She " in every wife and there is Nitin in every guy (most of the times!).
Note : Read till the end; nothing's more worthy than the ending.
Friend: Happy birthday!
She : Haan...thaannnk yoouuuu... was just getting up from the bed.
Friend : Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!
She : Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.
Friend : Who???
She : Come on, who else, Nitin.
Friend : Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?
She : Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.
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Friend : "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"
She : Nitin
Friend : By the way, who referred your CV in Infosys ? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?
She : No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.
Friend : I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.
She : No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.
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Friend : If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?
She : I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit.
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Friend : Hello...what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?
She : Listen, I will call you later.
Friend : You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.
She : Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.
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Friend : Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.
She : Why not? You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.
Friend : You will miss him.
She : Badly. I must thank Rohit, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives . He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding...a true friend.
Friend : He loves you yaar.
She : I know. He has expressed his feelings towards me.
Friend : Hey.When did he do that? You didn't tell me.and what was your reply?
She : Come on yaar.chill. You know my answer what would have been.
Friend : Don't you love him?
She : I don't want to.
Friend : Don't tell me. You also have a soft corner for him, if not love.
She : I don't want to commit.
Friend : What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When Miya-beevi are razi kya karega kazi ?
She : Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that, though he has tried to convince me.
Friend : Are you a fool not to understand his feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.
She : He is nice, but not my kind of guy. He is just a friend, I never had those feelings for him. I have told him everything about me and my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different state. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.
Friend : But you should marry a guy who loves you the most, not the one you like. And it's clearly visible how much you mean to him.
She : Please.I don't want to discuss about him anymore. I will gradually move away from him..I believe my parents will definitely find a good alliance..
Friend : Hmm, I don't understand at all. I am thinking how Nitin will take this. Hope he will move on.
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She : This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.
Friend : Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.
Friend : Any guesses, who is he?
She : Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.
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Friend : What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?
She : Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.
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Friend : Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.
She : Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.
Friend : How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?
She : Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life?
I don't like him "that" much to marry him. I have already told him about this. Anyway my parents will choose the best for me, a really nice, caring guy.
It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.
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Finally " She " got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new " him " regularly through chatting in Google Talk.
Now she ignores Nitin's SMSs and pings, coz she doesn't feel "comfortable" with that, as her alliance is fixed now.
Finally " She " got happily married to " him ", very soon converting Nitin into memories. But deleting the memories was slow and impossible for Nitin.
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Why do girls do like this? What was Nitin's fault? Why is that the girl who meant the world for him, treats him just like any other guy?
She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1st written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road , Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)
The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".
He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
He dreams to be her life-partner.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the " bhatka hua musafir " and she came as his " manzil ".
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to make her happy.
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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life.
Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).
Great! Or shall I say crap!
Or I think no need to be so serious about it.
She gets engaged, life goes on...
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...
A heart which was used to "Good morning", "Good night" and "Happy journey" SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" and SMSs, life goes on...
No more "Unread messages" in the Gmail, life goes on...
No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...
No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...
He stops taking care of his health, life goes on.
He resumes smoking again, life goes on...
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...
He starts drinking, life goes on...
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...
He earns a lot, but lost forever, life goes on.
He still wonders what went wrong, life goes on.
He smiles in the pain recollecting the time spent with her, and she is happy with her family, but life goes on.
Some have made movies, some wrote books - because there is " She " in every wife and there is Nitin in every guy (most of the times!).
There are dumb
spectators like " Friend " who are puzzled to see the
whole episode between " She " and Nitin and
just ask themselves " WHAT IT IS ???"
Can anyone say
that it has never happened in your life...It happens with all.
If not this, at least something equivalent. Or maybe you are neither "Her" nor "Nitin", but the "Friend".
If not this, at least something equivalent. Or maybe you are neither "Her" nor "Nitin", but the "Friend".
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Love not words win Arguments....
My
husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I
love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of
courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am
getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed
into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman and extremely
sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the
romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my
complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing
romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I
finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….
My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face…
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ” My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading…
“Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread…. Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…
That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…
“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….
My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face…
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ” My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading…
“Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread…. Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…
That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…
Thursday, August 2, 2012
EGO makes it 4:00…..
Eventually people hits around situation when
personal EGO seems more practical than logical situation. It’s been long time
getting subject to write on; the hunger for writing something was fulfilled
when ………
3-4
years ago,
“I’ve EGO problem and get angry quickly
normally” said Deepen.
What
the fuck is EGO? - I used to think and how does it make
person Angry??
Oblivious of giving denotation of this word doesn’t
mean I don’t buy it – it’s just being unable to comprehend it which may’ve kicked
me out of INDUSA during interview probably too 4 years back.
July
3rd, 2012 – 9:30 PM
Amazing Spiderman wasn’t bad option but didn’t worth
200 buck candidly. It came out as having another movie plan and as
Pratik(Gotiyo) had been to Ahmedabad; I did not deny even if it was 9-30 show.
I could have enjoyed movie more though; had I been 10-12 years younger than
what I was today ;) :) We (Deepen, Poonam, Gotiyo, Srikanth,
Jainam, Jinal etc etc) got separated after show ~12-00 and accompanied by Jinal in his car I
asked Jinal to drive me (till Deepen’s place) as FZ was missing .
“I am not dropping you home….” said
Jinal unknowing of me wanting to drop by Deepen’s room.
“Deepen’s room sir”….I thought WTF :P
I saw everyone getting dispersed and we were in
Jinal’s Esteem.
Back story in noon was - Jinal’s being tired, slept
and waking up in theatre without having dinner made him hungry at 12-00 like
anything; and why not? No every man in world can follow Ramdev baba :D We moved towards Honest Resz to get something
packed and called up Deepen/shrikanth if they wanted to have anything. Unfortunately
to fortune - they never deny and our 30 paisa call was worth to Jain Bhaaji and
1 Cock for them (Oops its Coke) ;) :D After
ordering Jain Bhaji, Pulao , we started chitchatting about business that Honest
and Ashok Pan Parlor makes a day. Impressive it makes!!!
I
Heard…
While returning to Deepen’s place; I heard
interesting lines spoken by Jinal..
“If this guys gonna stop, we not going to….we should
not….etc etc” he talked about Combing
night Police guys who stops every little vehicle after 12:00 and do their
verification.
Police did not stop us that time anyways and we
reached before Deepen, Pratik and Srikanth safely.
Here
and there….
They finished food hounding on car itself chirping
about one after another taking someone granted and fuss-fussing on each of them
who weren’t there even ;) It’s normal for people to talk back of person among
friends and creating or altering image mostly in negative way. People don’t
talk good about others now days. Bitter truth I would say – People remembers
people’s off-putting actions so easily and it’s hard for them to remember to
good ones which may create respect :P :D. Some said very beautifully – “Being
good person is very tough coz it’s like being Goal Keeper; They never remember
how many u saved, rather they always recall how many you missed”. We took one by one many of us for
backstabbing – and I started realizing I would have been also part of such
discussions among them sometime :D :D :D
In such discussions - Some stay neutral; some shows
smartness; some remains truthful; some acquires silence; some are there to
satisfy their EGO :) :) :)
Bole to personally lai le che……
It was worth noting caption – “Dosti me daraar nahi
he….Daraar me dosti he” :) Thanks to Srikanth…..
I remain silent mostly now a days anyways :)
Lucky I’m….
Story
Starts now…
Foremost discussion came to end with Shrikanth’s
utter of desire of eating Pastry at 1-30 o’clock. I already had 2 calls from
home If I was going back soon at home. I thought it won’t take more than 30
minutes and will reach home by 2-00. But……
Kicking off TGB, having Pastry and finishing up took
more than 1 hour and we headed back towards the place from where we kicked off.
TGB….Pakvaan Cross Road….US Pizza….Iscon Cross
roads…..Left…Dominoz….and there we are…..
They were waiting for us the way hungry Lion waits
for their hunt. About 6 police guys were on duty for night vehicle checkups due
to recent kidnappings taken place in different schools (I did not know). They
made us stop our car and Jinal stopped the car. This was the obedient mistake :(
Quite
Obvious…
Quite obvious it is; when 5 homogeneously aged guys
are grouped in car it always sounds sneaky. Thank god none of us was single
girl ;) :D It would have looked freaky. We did not look for option other than
coming out of car and do as they order. They acted upon duty by checking that
we are neither intoxicated nor kidnappers ;) :D Thanks to Shrikant not having
had drink before moving to TGB. I was calm; Pratik can be blown away with
little bridge; Deepen was cool but confident; Shrikant was smart – But Jinal
was Egoistic ….Fuck!!!
Duty says check out Clean hands; Smell People;
Verify License; Observe Innocence - Let them GO if 3 out of 4 gets satisfied !!
Hands were clean; none was drunk; License was
available – I thought we are good to go…..but Innocence missed :( :( :(
I’m not sure what frame of mind perceived Jinal that day – he was truthful but
out of mind. So far I’ve seen him as smartest person to handle the things
wisely; but today….
“Licence Apo..” said that guy…
“Lo ne…Aa rahyu license…biju kai check
karvu che?” Jinal overstated with attitude of most decent family son who was
stopped for verification as if he’s terrorist. It looked to me as if something going
to be interesting….I was ready ;)
“License Original kya che?” Guy verified
and responded spotly.
“Duplicate License che….Ghare thi lai
aavu Original kaheta hoy to…” He’s getting mad I thought; but he was driving
car 5 mins before; he was answerable anyways :( ;) :)
“Haan lai aavo…” Guy with slim body and
Khakhi wears responded to Jinal’s attitude cum EGO!!
“Biju kai saaheb?...”
“Car papers che Gaadi ma?” he
interviewed…
Jinal probably knew that Car papers were not
available still he asked Deepen and Pratik to check out the front car box to
get the papers out. As it had to; it ended up with CLEAN HANDS with CLEAN BOX
:D :D :D Jinal had no other option than getting papers and license from home.
Sadly – it was 3 O’Clock :( :(
Allowing people in their fifties sleeping at
midnight to get disturbed at 3’00 oclock was not a wise conclusion. But it just
ended up that way….which in turn made Jinal more annoyed and angry. This was
pure experienced Butterfly effect - I must say. Initial event (first answer)
took it forward as if it was Chaos Theory occurring where destiny was to get
locks unlocked for Papers and License at midnight.
Jinal with Pratik were out of AIR and I along with
Deepen and Shrikanth started conversation with all of ~6 Police guys. We started
with exchanging names, doing done’s and to our fortune it shifted up to
offering of Tea and Coffee. I sought to be witty and whelming by asking for
Bournvita – did I so ;) :)
But this conversation actually started putting up
meaning when Deepen pointed out towards a car where one of their guys allowed another
BMW to pass away without any check….
“E bhai ne bahu harakh hato Papers leva
javano…License dekhadvano…”, “Hu tamne aaram thi java det, jo emne sarkhi rite
vaat kari hot to..”, “ame koi ne rokta j nathi…aa to khali check karvu pade…”,
“Report dekhadvana hoy etle….”, “tamne rokya kem ke tame youngsters cho…”, “ame
khali Drink karyu che ke nai etlu j check karta hoiye che….”, “emno tone and
javabo bahu uncha hata…” etc etc.
As simple as that – Sometimes Being Humble makes it
easier than satisfying personal EGO :)
Back
Story at 3-30 AM….
Jinal had to seemingly wake his father for papers at
home which again took interesting turn as Papers were not on hand at ParshSaarthi Tower; 10th floor in first building :(:(. Next step was
to collect papers from Office at Manekbaug (Probably) which required Office
Keys. Jinal’s brother came to help along with Pratik and they moved towards
office at 3:30 AM; for us who were innocently mortgaged and waiting for Jinal
coming back with all things needed – except Anger and EGO !!
My mom called up again but this time on Deepen’s
cell with little anger and discontent in her words L
Eventually, I just let it happen whatever was going on. In-fact I was enjoying
such blogging incident after long time. As expected and waited – we saw Jinal’s
CAR returning and we sighed breath of relief (just because we wanted to get
back; we were not afraid of anything at all). Back story said that Pratik was
on the way and to be back soon carried by 80+ Kg figure and original papers along
with; which in fact was not at all needed :) :)
But unneeded things always get carried by people….
Ego – Attitude – Self Respect: A thin line exists between each of them but
normally people ends up converting Attitude and Self Respect into EGO. Jinal
again started to satisfy his EGO by questioning on their duty which later on
started meshing up between Jinal and Head among Six guys. Sometimes it is not
easy to support person under EGO even if he’s true. I could see that Jinal was
not wrong on his part by questioning things; he was trying to make out truthful
state but again with EGO or to satisfy his EGO. In parallel Head of those night
duty guys was also getting more interested in showing off his Ego-Attitude-Power.
Things got worse again and they both ended up sitting in CAR to move for
tolling up and car getting seized by higher authorities :( :(
Ego …Bhai….Ego…have to banne no Ego :D :D :D
Ego …Bhai….Ego…have to banne no Ego :D :D :D
I only was with Jinal among we fives; he did not do
anything wrong, but perhaps time was not correct. I don’t support Jinal’s Ego
but I definitely wanted to be against power show off of Head of those Police
guys. Thankfully, Smart People were around (Deepen and Shrikanth) who made the
situation low soon to make them out of car and do their own business at ~3-40.
Soon Pratik along with Utsav came with papers awaited and we finally planned to
say ALVIDA. To my surprise they did not even look at the papers before we waved
off; they certainly were not waiting for papers as they said earlier :) :)
:D
Arguments started as soon as we set up in car while
returning; Deepen had to start counseling Jinal; Jinal had his own mind frame
that time; Shrikanth was extravagance and Jinal again was fighting back with
partial truth. Sometimes smartness wins over truth attached with EGO; Deepen
and Shrikanth proved it. I remained silently focused on going home ASAP :) Sometimes Silence is more powerful than
anything but “Jab meri baat aati he,
nothing remains powerful” – hahahahahahahahaha :) :)
It was nice Pastry experience….I love to miss it…..I
remember when I reached home it was 4-00; Ego makes it 4-00 :) :) :)
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