Ever thought about what it means to be the other man in a woman's life?
There is always one woman you can't help but notice :) So does occur to me also times on times. Being honest, married woman is easier to fall in lust with; hardly THE ONE can fall in love. It's that Devil we're talking about, who paves his way into the heart of HOT married woman one cannot resist. Even if the reason why men are so attracted by her could just be lust, Men prefer guising that lust under the garb of the 'Other man to that woman' being the Home wrecker. I don’t blame men for pointing their finger on her. It's all thanks to the society's stereotypical thought ;) :)
Factually I believe - There is nothing wrong or hurtful being attracted to a married Woman; then again, if you are pondering being the “Other Man” in her life, may be below pointers should be interview questions for you.
What you need out of life?
I kept thinking, Does it really worth the word Commitment in relationship? I always have heard from diligent sources “For women, commitment and security in a relationship is extremely necessary”. Next question to me was “Are men (like me) really ok with the short-term pleasure they receive? Why are they not willing to settle for something better? Do they Fear?
Answer was Love. Love what you do and do what you love. Fear never lets you free but Love always does :) This may/may not be false statement – but Love is the final destination.
Believe me!!
What are goals of your relationship with that Woman?
What I think is – now days who care about goals when it comes to relationship. Just make it and break it once you crack it ;). In-fact have heard lots of time from friends – “Goal should be our interest getting satisfied :)”. May look like blunt statement but it’s nothing but true.
You should question yourself about things like why is it that you are compromising and willing to be the second fiddle to a married woman's husband. Are you so die-hard of attention? At times, you just might be high on confidence and self-esteem, with a million women wanting to be with you, but you still lay your hands on that married woman. Is it just a way to show that you are the ultimate seductor who can woo any woman regardless of his relationship status?
Check out!!
Are you in the husband's shoes?
Being honest, when I had married woman who could have been my girlfriend had I wanted, I never cared for this question. Neither the other men does. In-fact feeling free out of responsible relationship is men’s first priority; so was mine as I’m unmarried.
Think once, will it be ok for you to see your wife having an extra marital affair? You might just be able to figure how heart-wrecking such a situation can be. It is important for you to remember that everything she told you about why she is in a relationship with you, might just not be true. You might be missing out his husband's stand.
Think about it!!
Do you weigh the consequences?
This has been always biggest culprit of my life working on things without looking at clear road way. I hardly look for the prospect which could be easily observed. I just do it and never cared for it. It’s not just about relationship; it’s also about other aspects of life. But today somehow I can also win over it at least when it comes on relationship.
Measure the short term and long term consequences. You do not want to realize five years later that you should not have wasted the prime of your youth on her instead of looking for other, better options. It is important to ask the woman you love whether she is willing to stand up for you. See if she is woman enough to protect you when you are being judged by others. Does she ever stand up for you and take the onus of being linked with you? If the answer to all these questions are no, she's treating you as that snack you would like to munch on once in a while but never have for a daily meal. He he he ;) :D
I’m going correct. Ain’t i?
Are you ready to be tagged as the home-breaker?
It really sucks!! – when I think about being called as Home-wrecker.
Think of how people will be wary of you, keeping their wives away from you including your friends. Woman will never share the blame with you. However, you will be held responsible for being the man who breaks his house, despite whether you entered in the relationship while she already had a bad marriage or not. It's important that you are secure in your head that you never intended to break her marriage; your intention was only Love.
Got it? !!
Are u little over-possessive about your women, be it their wife or their girlfriend?
I’ve felt it times on times being possessive about my girl. Could u imagine how it would feel when being over-possessive makes it departure and she leaves you? It took months to recover myself. How much you would take?
Fact is - Men want the best of both worlds. Bear the difficulties that may ensue if at all you leave the relationship. Remind yourself that you knew she was married and you had to make compromises. You just might be heart-broken without her, but trust us it will be worth it.
Accept the Fact and challenge yourself. Can ya?
Couldn’t you find someone who would give you first preference?
Had always want to be most preferred friend in my circle; so did I want with my previous affairs. First preference equals stable relationship. If I don’t have stable relationship today, it simply means I was never first preference for girls I’ve been with so far. Unfortunately – This is also bitter truth of my life :)
I must say - If you are the one who is ready to pull out a tissue from your purse on the death of an ant, then probably it is best for you to move on and find a companion for yourself, who will give you what you want. Truthfully, if you're looking for a stable relationship, this is not the one. Being in a relationship with a married woman is like walking into a furniture store and asking for clothes :)
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